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=__LIFE LESSONS__= before you start your educational career as a student, you have already started your social education. your parents teach you values of how to act, speak, and respect others. if you have siblings, they show you how to resolve conflicts and share; they also set a foundation for making friends. having a sibling give you a chance to interact with someone who is more like you in personality, and being with them often helps you gain tolerance. once you begin school and even before then you make friends. they teach you to trust, and they can help you find your true personality.if your parents are neglectful, and you do not have positive interaction, you start off being self reliant and have a harder time conforming to society and making friends. also when you do not have a sibling, you rely more on your parents and less on other people. its harder to make friends because you do not have the feedback a sibling would give you on how to respect, solve problems, and gain tolerance.

__Pros of peers and family__

 * you learn to fit in with society
 * they help you understand your personal values
 * security in having someone to trust

__Cons of peers and family( if low interaction between)__

 * do not get interaction needed to conform to society
 * keep to yourself and wont work well with others
 * unable to trust others well

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** PARENTING STYLES **
 * Authoritarian || Authoritative || Neglectful || Indulgent ||
 * This is a restrictive, punitive style in which the parents exhort the child to follow their directions and to respect work and effort. The authoritarian parent places firm limits and controls on the child and allows little verbal exchange. || This style encourages children to be independent but still places limits and controls on their actions. Extensive verbal give-and-take is allowed, and parents are warm and nurturant toward the child. || This is a style in which the parent is uninvolved in the child's life. This style of parenting leaves the child feeling that other aspects of the parents' lives are more important than they are. || This is a style of parenting in which the parents are highly involved with their children but place few demands or controls on them. Indulgent parents let their children do what they want to do which frequently leads children to expect to get their own way. ||
 * Children of authoritarian parents are often anxious about social comparison, fail to initiate activity, and have poor communication skills. || Children of authoritative parents are socially competent, self-reliant, and socially responsible. || Children whose parents are neglectful are socially incompetent. They show poor self-control and do not handle independence well. || Children whose parents are indulgent rarely learn respect for others and have difficulty controlling their behavior. ||

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**The Importance of Having Good Parents**

Parents play an important role in child development. A responsible parent led children to a responsible adult. The definition of good parent might be differing from person to person. I list here few qualities that a responsible parent should have.

A responsible parent always keep in mind that they are raising adults, not children. They always think about their children’s character, not just their careers. They would like to make them competent, responsible, considerate, generous men or women.

A responsible parent; permit nothing in their home that offends god. They always direct their children’s behavior by giving good examples. They always teach their children, to accept what is good, reject what is wrong, and know the difference.

The love between mother and father plays an important role for children. Children need a real strong relationship between themselves and their parents. Children who have a strong relationship with their parents are most likely to respect the authority of their parents.

A responsible parent teaches their children that we mean what we say, we say what we mean, and we keep our word. They insist that their children always tell the truth and keep their promises.

They teach their children to pray. They direct them to help the needy. They teach them how to respect the elder. They make their children wait for something they want, and if possible make them to earn it. That’s way children realize the value of money as well as they know that how difficult it is to earn it. Both parents in workforce leave their children home alone both before and after school, as well as during summer vacation. These children are basically left to raise themselves. Therefore responsible parents spend an enough time with their children.

A responsible parent set limits for their children. They should make sure that their children eat the proper foods, dress appropriately, and are in bed at a reasonable time. As they get older, they expand their limits. They try to understand their children’s liking and disliking. They listen to their children. They give them opportunities to learn things. They counsel their children, when their children get depressed.